Question:
I was wondering if one muslimah saw a handsome guy walk by and felt a quick butterfly in stomach-choking feeling and possibly some fluid come out. Does this require ghusl? Or is this like madhy? If not, then I think some people would have to make ghusl every five minutes. ps i do try to avert my gaze, or change the channel, but tv also has unavoidable quick suggestive scenes in them.
Answer:
Honorable sister,
Praises are to Allah. In the time of prophet Muhammed, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, a woman came to prophet Muhammed, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, and asked him if she had a wet dream, does she have to do a full ghusl (complete washing). He, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, replied: Yes if she notices a discharge.
For men and women, there are different things that emit from the two pathways. Generally speaking, they require cleaning off the fluid, and renewing wudhu. Except in the case of manee “manee”, i.e. fluid that gives form to a new life. In the case of manee, it would require a full ghusl.
Madhi, which is translated as preseminal fluid, or preejaculate, is considered impure by most of the ulema, and requires washing it from the body, and neccesitates a new wudhu. However the view of the Hanafi school considers it for women to be like sweat, and does not require making a new wudhu.
It should be known that looking at someone that is not one’s husband in a sexual manner, whether physically, through magazines, films, television, or describing events through an erotic way is haram. Allah says in the Quran in Surah Nur:
{ وَقُل لِّلۡمُؤۡمِنَـٰتِ يَغۡضُضۡنَ مِنۡ أَبۡصَـٰرِهِنَّ وَيَحۡفَظۡنَ فُرُوجَهُنّ}
“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) “
Zina is haram and anything that leads on the path of zina is also haram. One should turn away one’s glances, and seek a halal (allowed) way to fulfill one’s desires through marriage. One should avoid flirting, and minimize talking to only things of neccesity.
You see, prophet Muhammed, May Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, discouraged women from going to the masajid because of temptations. What then about other situations?
And Allah knows.
Shaikh Sajid.